What an incredible experience of delivering my son, Dean Wild! To say the experience was night and day different compared to my daughter’s birth story would be an understatement. I have been taking notes and will do my best to share everything as I know how much people love birth stories (myself included). I hope nothing I say triggers or scares anyone, simply sharing my experience! That being said, I would like to say there is a trigger warning at the end of this story after the delivery. If you are sensitive at all, this is your warning.
I stated losing my mucus plug on February 17 and thought for certain I would go into labor on my own. My due date for our son was February 28. I had to be induced with my daughter at 41 weeks and the same needed to happen with my son on March 7. Luckily, unlike with Oakley, we were able to come in to the hospital in the morning instead of at night. I also didn’t need any cervidal with Dean like I did with Oakley. We started the induction around 8:00am with a blood draw (for hemoglobin and other levels), an IV with pitocin, and the world’s most amazing nurse who also happened to be an amazing birth coach (that I did not plan for but wouldn’t have been able to do it without her).
While I didn’t have a birth plan other than “healthy mom and healthy baby”, I really wanted to birth without an epidural for this one as I did get an epidural with Oakley. As always, there’s little no shame in an epidural, modern medicine is a beautiful thing. I knew it would be challenging given the induction but I was determined to labor as long as I could. I had the world’s best nurse that stayed with me the entire time and helped me through the entire labor process. There weren’t a lot of births happening Monday so I had a dedicated nurse the entire time. She certainly was more “old school” but was so encouraging and empowering. She kept reminding me that no one has ever died from pain and each contraction was one less I would have to go through.
My pitocin was started at 8:00am and the doctor broke my water at 8:40am. I was about 2-3cm when my water was broken and I was having small uterine contractions as soon as I was hooked up to the baby monitor, so there was a strong possibility he was going to come a few days after my induction but definitely not something I, nor my doctor, wanted to chance. From about 8-1030am, my contractions were extremely, extremely mild and infrequent. We switched positions about every half hour from leaning over the bed, bouncing on the ball, sitting like a frog, walking around in the room, etc. At 11 I laid on my right side with the peanut ball for half an hour and then my left side with peanut ball.
We did this for two hours to help shift the pelvis and get the head even lower. At about 11, my contractions started getting more painful, intense, and frequent (roughly 45 second contractions every two minutes). I was stuck at 6-7cm from about noon to 1pm and was in a very dark place mentally. Laboring without an epidural was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, hands down; especially given the induction process. I told my nurse I didn’t think I could keep doing it without an epidural but she told me I was progressing too quickly and it was too late so I needed to find the right mental space to get through it. She kept reminding me, over and over, that I was capable of doing it and each contraction was one less contraction I had to do.
Around 1:30 I was finally about 9cm and the doctor was called in to check me to see if it was almost time to start pushing. She said there was a small amount of cervix still in the way so I had to wait a little longer. It felt like an eternity but Josh was gowned up and ready to pull the baby out, just like he did Oakley. I started pushing at 2:06 and baby was born at 2:16 after 9 pushes. He did have his cord wrapped around his neck but everything was fine as once he was put on my chest. I was extremely overwhelmed with emotion and pain. We did skin to skin and delayed cord blood clamping but I wanted to enjoy my time with him without being so over stimulated. I did tear and needed stitches and I was also having very severe postpartum cramps during that time as well. Baby was being cleaned and measured and Josh did skin to skin with him until I was stitched up and felt safe holding him. The contractions after delivery were just as intense as my labor pains and I was very concerned with holding him with my body was going through that.
I did feel like something was wrong and I expressed that to my nurses and doctor. I lost quite a bit of blood during labor (875ml) and 220ml within the first hour of recovery. My doctor said that was on the higher side for where she wanted me to be so we had extra monitoring during the first few hours after delivery. I was checked every 15 minutes an with every contraction, was losing more and more blood. I ended up needing a second bag of pitocin around 4pm as I was cramping and bleeding with each contraction. Due to the additional blood loss, I was started on a bag of TXA to assist with blood clotting and was on that for about an hour.
Around 6pm, a new nurse came in that was taking what I was telling her very, very seriously and she told me she was going to push on my stomach (fundal massage) harder than anyone else had, which is not what I wanted to hear. When she did, I almost threw up in pain but she expelled 865ml of blood clots with two pushes. I can’t even being to describe the feeling of all of that coming out of my body. I was again overwhelmed with emotions and just so grateful Josh was holding Dean the entire time as I was experiencing that. As soon as she expelled the clots, I didn’t have another single contraction or cramp. With the amount of blood loss, several other doctors came in to check on me during the next few hours. My nurse told me later she had to keep a poker face but she was very concerned as it was happening and too was grateful that Josh had the baby the entire time. I was monitored for an additional few hours and my stomach was pushed on every 15 minutes to ensure nothing else needed to come out. I lost almost 2 liters of blood between 2pm and 6:30pm and my hemoglobin plummeted from 12.6 to 7.6.
To say I was petrified would have been an understatement. If I had lost anymore blood, I would have needed a transfusion so I am just so blessed and grateful that I did not have to go down that path as part of my postpartum journey and healing. Dean slept great through the night and we were all able to get pretty good sleep, given it was our first night together. I did end up having a very depilating headache in the morning due to the low hemoglobin and being very dehydrated. Was it perfect? No. Did I expect it to be? No. But I would do it a million times over! And now we are on the road to recovery, healing, and learning how to do this thing as a family of four!
I can only imagine how scary it was. God was watching you and you are so strong mentally o wouldn’t think I could of handle it the way you did. I am glad everyone is healthy and safe.
Oh my goodness! Praying for a smooth recovery, great work mama. So glad you are safe and baby Dean is healthy. Don’t know you but proud of you for fighting. You make the mamas of the world proud.
I’m an L&D nurse and let me tell you, you are a champ! You lost an insane amount of blood and you also went through all of this without an epidural. Do not let anyone give you any hate. You are amazing and anyone that knows anything about L&D would say the same. I hope you have a smooth recovery, congratulations!
This story hits me from so many angles as I have children of my own and I have been a labor nurse for well over a decade. I once read a study that said the biggest variable that decides how a birth will end up is the nurse! I take this role very seriously, so seriously I almost had to deliver my third baby myself because as I told my husband “I know what I’m doing”. Your story is yours and it’s absolutely beautiful. Enjoy your sweet babies, because as you know they grow up far too fast. God bless your family!
So so beautiful! Congrats on no epidural, makes you feel like super woman! Glad you are all okay! Saw your story about the milk you’re getting and that’s so awesome!!! I remember you sharing how badly you wanted to provide breastmilk and momma you’re doing it!!! ????
Thank you for sharing. Thank God you and the baby are now home healing and recovering. You have a beautiful family. I enjoy Oakley’s stories and definitely looking forward to see you baby boy.
To say I am proud and how hopeful this makes me for my delivery in 4 months is an understatement. Thank you for inspiring so many women
So glad to hear you both are safe. God bless
Congratulations to your beautiful family?
Thank you for sharing your birth story! I’m so happy you’re healing and that your baby boy is good, too! God bless and I send you all much love!
Wow, Sarah. Made me cry. I didn’t know I loved reading birth stories!!! I’m so very happy you are ok (and Dean). What a whirlwind! Prayers to you and your amazing family!
So glad to hear you and baby are safe.
I had a huge clot after I had my Daugher. I kept telling the nurse I can’t feel my one 1. So after an hour she told me let’s get up go to the bathroom.
I ended up passing out on the toilet (couldn’t push out the pee). She carried me back to the bed. Gave me a shot in my leg. As I’m waking up… I’m trying to tell everyone I passed out . They told me we know stop talking!!! She pressed on my tummy and it looked like a whole other baby came out! It was the most scariest thing ever.